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How do you tell if someone is afraid to commit to a relationship, depressed or just not interested in a relationship and doesn't know how to get out of it without hurting your feelings? see the review

How well do you know this person? Aren't they easy to talk to? see the review

We're none of us mind-readers, I'm not sure there's a way to tell, other than to ask them see the review

I know you aren't mind readers. I typed out an explanation and confused myself even more. I'm sorry, I will try again see the review

I met my current boyfriend of 4 months on a dating website. He lives in Canada. I live in the U.S. We are about 1.5 hours apart see the review

Initially, things were A-M-A-Z-I-N-G. We had been speaking via e-mail for about a week when he invited me to one of his friends B-Day parties. I accepted with plans of driving up there and back the same night. I thought it was a good opportunity because it was a public place with lots of people and I would see how he interacted with those around him. It was three days before I did actually make the trip back to the U.S. and not before he had made plans to come down and visit me see the review

For the next 3 months we saw each other every weekend, I mostly travel up there as I enjoy it so much more. The few times I couldn't make it up due to other commitments he came to visit me. When we were not together we were texting each other. He would send me really sweet and thoughtful messages and I would tell him how much I missed him when we were apart. He said he loved me, introduced me to his Dad's side of the family and since, I have spent a lot of time with them including the Canadian Thanksgiving with an invite back for Christmas. On this Thanksgiving he had made two comments jokingly he called me his "future ex-wife" and then after me stating I don't like peanut butter had said "That's why we'll never get married." see the review

The week after the holiday was the first week we would be unable to see each other as he had other family commitments with his Mum's side who he says is a bit loopy and I understood that. He was rather distant that weekend which I figured was because he was bus with his family. He had let me know he was heading home and he was getting back into his regular routine and I said I hoped he'd had a great time blah blah and couldn't wait to see him. I didn't hear from him. I had sent a few texts with no response 3 to be exact. I knew he had been traveling and his Mum lives a ways away so I was a little worried. So I sent a message asking if he was ok. When I received his response I was taken aback. It consisted of him telling me I need to "chill", he can't be available 24/7 and he's taking time for himself. Nothing is going on he's just enjoying the time alone as he hasn't done that since we started dating that he misses me and we would talk soon see the review

I have ALWAYS asked him if I could see him on the weekends and he would get frustrated with me and say of course I could. I was able to go up there whenever I wanted and he even wanted to get me a key cut which I disagreed to. Not too long before this had happened we had a discussion about how we wouldn't know if something happened to the other because we were so far apart and I told him it was something I thought about. I felt that him consciously choosing to ignore me after that discussion when I was asking if he was ok was disrespectful see the review

He has made comments about us not being 'right' for each other because we live in different countries, that he is shocked we have "lasted as long as we have","there isn't anything that lasts forever" and that it "is destined to fail" and that the reason I work so well for him is because there is not the constant "boyfriend/husband pressure" we only see each other on weekends so there is not the big "looming doomsday cloud of long term commitment" keep in mind he is the ONE person that rbings up marriage CONSISTENTLY. He says it has only worked because together we have made it work. "He is more comfortable alone" and that we are invested in the relationship for different reasons see the review

I care about him and I do love him very much. No-one had made me feel the way he did in our first few months and I want nothing more to figure out what is going on. At the same time I am NOT putting myself in a position to be completely heartbroken. I have told him that we should break it off several times and each and every time he says absolutely not. He apologises profusely and says that he just has "issues". He says he loves and cares for me very deeply and that I have reminded him of what it is like to be happy and that his feelings of the long term are based entirely on our long distance situation. He says that he is not used to having someone care about him the way I do and his reaction to me asking if he was ok was inexcusable see the review

I have visited with him once since that weekend, last weekend actually, and it was still enjoyable when we were together. It was a little off at first. We were both a little uptight and I could see he was VERY upset with himself. We just held each other for a long time and apologised. Hindsight, that should have been a very lengthy WTF are we doing conversation but it wasn't see the review

I was to go up this weekend and he started sending me texts saying he might have to work extra and it would only be a short trip so maybe I should just stay home which he has NEVER done even on weekends when he WAS working. I took that as a he needs his alone time so I am not up there this weekend see the review

Sidenote, It can be difficult for me to get the right days off to see him, previously, I had an opportunity to change the days I work which would make it MUCH easier and he said it was a fantastic idea as he would always have the same two days off at the very least. Unfortunately at that point it didn't go through. When it came up again just this week he said it was not a good idea at all beccause his schedule is "unpredictable" see the review

At that point I had had enough of his back and forth attitude in regards to our relationship and told him that it was just not going to work out. Again he apoligised profusely and said he just didn;t want me making changes for him that I may later resent which would have never been the case. I work a mixed up schedule. 3.30pm-12am Sunday through Thursday. He has off Sun and Mon. Changing my schedule would have meant 3.30pm-12am Tues-Sat. Same days off as him. Currently I have to ask co-workers to cover my shifts so I can go up there which is a PIA! see the review

Anyway, This time after apologising he said that this time of year brings up a lot of **** for him and he is not handling it well but he won't share what. This time of year is tough for me too. I am actually from Australia and have NO family here in the U.S. so I get homesick and him pushing me away is not helping either of us. He says that sharing his problems with me will make things worse between us see the review

Long story shortened a little right now. He tells me I am wanted, loved, appreciated, that I make him happier than he has been. He cares very deeply for me and believes I am a 1 in a billion type person and he is scared of me, himself and the way he feels about me. He has bouts of anxiety when he thinks of the future. He doesn;t want to push me away or mean to do it. But it is exactly what he is doing see the review

He says he does not want a serious relationship because it is too much for him, he can't always be available for another person when he can't even do that for himself. He doesn't want to hurt me and doesn't want to waste my time. He says that he thinks the depression he suffered some time ago may still be lingering see the review

I had assumed with him saying he doesn't want serious that it is over. He seems to think I WANT serious. So i just said that was fine wished him well and AGAIN he went into a speech about how he doesn't want to lose me. He wants to give me everything I give him and it's not far if he can't. He said he will let me know when he gets his **** together and I told him I am not waiting around "just in case" at the end of it all he wants me there. I've been there I've done that see the review

He said that none of this is about ME and has stated he made an arrangement to go to see his therapist and that none of this is my fault but I am SO confused right now. I feel like I am a yo-yo just being constantly reeled back in and unfortunately, I REALLY do care for him, I am shattered that he is having a rough time, I want nothing more than to help him and I feel as though I need to leave for HIS benefit because I am bringing all these issues up but that seems to make it worse somehow. I learned from my last relationship that I can't do what's right for him whilst sacrificing my own needs see the review

I am not understanding where HE is coming from so I don;t know if it is something that we can work through it is a lost cause which would be devastating see the review

Sorry for the length if you made it this far I would REALLY appreciate ANY input see the review